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Dear Friends...Hearing God's Voice

Dear Friends: I don’t know about you, but I have a lot of questions I want answered. I have needs that are not met. I have desires of my heart that I’m still yearning for. I need more wisdom and guidance for life! Can you relate? I NEED to hear from God. I am desperate for His voice of love and wisdom. Without it, I don’t have peace, confidence, acceptance or assurance, and I sure don’t have anything to give anyone else. "Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know." Jeremiah 33:3 This verse should take our breath away! Do you get it? The Creator of the Universe, the One who put the constellation in the sky; the One who knows you by name and has your name engraved on the palm of His hand…The great I AM, is giving YOU permission to call to Him and He promises He will answer! But you say to me, “Angel, I don’t hear Him.” I used to say that too, until I learned how to hear His voice. Sounds kind of funny doesn’t it? It’s like learning a new language that is different than our native one. His voice is subtle and often we mistake it for our own. You know that ‘brilliant’ idea that came from out of the blue or the one that you’ve never thought of before? Or when something that has seemed so complicated suddenly makes perfect sense with no further explanation. What about when someone’s name comes to your mind when you weren’t consciously thinking of him? But we tend to ascribe them to our ‘brilliant’ brains or an ‘ah ha’ moment. They are actually God’s still, small and wonderful voice. One of the best definitions regarding hearing God’s voice is from Mark Virkler. He says, “God’s voice is a spontaneous thought that lights upon the mind that has the character of God.” Isn’t that wonderful! Think of it this way, God’s character is based on love and the marker of His presence is peace. The thoughts that light upon your mind that are Godly will propel you into new things, will bring peace to your soul, will illuminate dark places, and will bring good to other’s. That’s how you will be able to discern His voice. Today, if you hear his voice, do not harden your hearts.” Hebrews 4:7 Once again, scripture assures us that He is talking and we can hear. However, there is also a warning and clue on why we might not be able to hear His voice. That clue is a hardened heart. For a hardened heart is also a heart not at peace. What is a hardened heart? It is one that has turned away from God. It is one that does not give God the credit. It is one that relies on oneself. It is one that takes the credit for the brilliance. It is one that doesn’t feel a need for God. A heart that goes at life on it’s own. No need for counsel. That is a hardened heart. That is a lonely heart. Today, do you hear God’s voice? Listen carefully. It’s the still small voice in your head or heart. It is subtle yet powerful. It will always have the character of love (encouraging, uplifting, edifying, convicting, but never condemning) and it will bring peace and help you move forward. TODAY, this day, turn your internal ‘ear’ to the heart of God’s love and listen. He is speaking. Will you hear Him? Practice hearing. He will speak as loud as you need Him to. It will revolutionize your world. Blessings~ Angel

ear Friends.... As a psychotherapist, I know it is common to pass down coping behaviors and ways of thinking to the next generation. You can even see the similarities from multiple generations before. It is why we often use a family genogram to diagnosis issues. One of my prayers and hopes for my two daughters is that they would not repeat the problems and issues I’ve had to deal with in my life. It has been one of the motivating factors, which inspires me to change. I started this process with psychological principles that were helpful in the area of coping and managing my feelings and issues, but did not bring me freedom from the issues. Many of my issues were rooted in my past, but were affecting me in the present. According to, the definition of leg·a·cy is: “something (such as property or money) that is received from someone who has died or something that happened in the past or that comes from someone in the past.” Legacy can be passed on intentionally or unintentionally, but one way or another, our past effects our present. We tend to deal with life and handle relationships unconsciously based on what we inherited. Here are some typical ways our past impacts our present… • How we settle conflict. • How we discipline. • How we communicate. • How we handle change. • How we give. • How we receive. • How we forgive. • How we love. • How we view God. For example, you might have learned how to deal with relationships by manipulating people to like you or your ideas, by telling them what they want to hear, or avoiding difficult truths or conversations. As a result, you are unable to be transparent or authentic with the special people in your life, and ultimately are hiding from yourself and God. That sets in motion a pattern of behavior that will likely be passed down to your children. This is what they are seeing and experiencing from you. Eventually, you may find yourself with a child who is not honest with you and tells you what they think you want to hear, instead of what is truly in their hearts. Then as a result they miss opportunities to really figure out who they are and what really matters to them, and more importantly they have not developed good coping skills to navigate relationships. Over the years of counseling, I have encountered many people who were determined to not repeat the past mistakes of their parents/ancestors and then much to their dismay they are sitting in my office because they are doing exactly what they thought they would never do. Whether your legacy was positive or negative (for most it’s a combination), you will naturally hand it down to your children unless you intentionally change. This is how legacy affects us. Along my personal journey, God showed me how He could change my legacy. It’s not easy, but it is definitely possible. He showed me what He could do with my problems and issues when I gave them to Him. He renewed my mind (changed my way of thinking) and healed my broken heart (resolved some deep seated hurts/sensitivities). God’s healing, was like fire to dynamite; it was the power that allowed all I had done before to lead to true transformation which was life changing! The result was a closer relationship with God, which brought freedom and purpose to my life, a healing in my marriage and ushered in a new legacy for my girls. That’s some good stuff! God’s promise in Ezekiel 18:20 “The child will not be punished for the parent’s sins, and the parent will not be punished for the child’s sins,” came alive and became real in my life. Stop for a second and read Isaiah 61:1-8. What an amazing passage that is full of truths! It talks about the promise of God to bind up the broken hearted and set the captives (the hurt and pain from someone else’s sin) and prisoners (our own sin) free. The passage describes those that allow God’s healing are then called “oaks of righteousness” planted for His glory. They will go on to rebuild and renew areas that have long been devastated. In verse 7 God promises: “Instead of your shame you will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace you will rejoice in your inheritance.” Does that make sense? Think about it. When we allow God to heal our hearts and renew our minds, then we display His glory and His healing impacts our inheritance. When you allow God to transform you, you are choosing life. Scripture indicates that what you choose effects the generations to come. That allows us to turn and help others renew and rebuild their lives. How amazing is that? You have the choice of how you will affect generations-positively or negatively. I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live” (NKJV). Deuteronomy 30:19 Parents often ask me how to help their children. I tell them, one of the best ways to help them is to take care of your own issues. Whether you have your own biological children or you are a spiritual parent, allow God to help you break those old habits that aren’t working and have never worked! This is a gift to all of God’s children. 1 Corinthians 12:27 states “Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it”.…A NEW legacy that they will carry on for generations to come! Do the tough stuff today. Let God deal with your own heart and break the old generational legacy… “The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” 2 Corinthians 5:17 Blessings~ Angel

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds…” James 1:2

As we ease into Holiday planning, are you counting it PURE joy?

It is the time of the year when families make extra effort to gather together. Most of the time it is out of desire, but it can be an obligation as well. This is also the time of year that all of our different personalities can ‘rub’ on each other. Difficult relationships might be highlighted or tested, and herein lies the reason why many folks dread the holidays all together. So how can we “consider it pure joy” as Paul exhorts us and be grateful in the midst of difficult relationships?

In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18

We can give thanks and count the difficult relationships pure joy because:

1. It Develops Our Perseverance... It gives us an opportunity to lean on God for the patience and compassion we need to deal with the person. It gives us opportunity to lean on His strength and to usher in something new into the relationship. We get to practice His ways no matter how the other person acts, which grows us spiritually.

2. It Matures Our Faith... The perseverance we need to maintain and navigate difficult relationships in our life compels us to seek God in a deeper way. If we desire to handle things in a Godly manner we must seek His heart for the person involved; rely on His wisdom and use His power to follow through.

3. It Allows Us to Know Ourselves Better... A powerful concept in psychology is that the person we tend to have difficulties with is often a reflected image of ourselves. Often this person is reflecting back to us something about ourselves and we don’t even know it! Stop and ask the Lord, “Is there anything in my heart that is similar to this person or situation?”

4. It Allows Us To Love Like Christ... Boy, if Jesus only choose to love us when we ‘acted right’, ‘didn’t hurt His feelings’, or ‘treated Him like He deserves’ we would ALL be in serious trouble. He loves us unconditionally and He directs us to do the same. In difficult relationships, the ONLY way we can do this is to allow His love to flow through us.

5. It Allows Us To Live In The Freedom Of Forgiveness... Forgiveness cost God a lot…His Son on the Cross. When we forgive as God directs us, then we stay out of bondage. In a difficult relationship we GET to practice forgiveness and experience the freedom and peace it brings. We never really appreciate something unless it costs!

6. We Get To Experience The Joy Of Dying To Self... HUH? Joy? Yes, joy. When we deny what our flesh desires to do or say in the difficulties then we become more alive in Him. And then we exude more of God into the situation. We have the power to speak life or death into these difficult situations. Choose life. Do it God’s way, not your own!

Think about how different these relationships might be if you practice God’s directions in the tough stuff? Family gatherings could be peaceful and more loving. And it’s spiritual exercise! You can become healthier and lead other’s into the same!

Now it’s time I practice what I preach. Thanks for letting me share. It helps me stay accountable too!

What are ways you “count it pure joy” and “give thanks in all things” regarding difficult relationships? Share and let’s spur each other on to good deeds…

Blessings~ Angel

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